As we got ready to leave Victoria we had to make a couple of stops. One at Mom and Dad’s just to say goodbye and to borrow their key to the old house.Continue reading “More Goodbyes”
Well we are finished with everything we needed to do, so we decided it was time to start heading back home to Alaska.Continue reading “Saying Goodbye”
Well I have not been able to blog because when I got to Victoria I had to start pricing stuff for the garage sale and I didn’t have WiFi.Read more
As the day went on our sun started to get covered by clouds. As the people arrived we were deciding where to have the beer tasting, inside or outside. We finally decided on eating inside and drinking by the fire pit.
I took my brisket off the pit. It had been smoking for 7 to 8 hours. It looked beautiful.
I got up this morning and got my BBQ pit going. I am cooking a brisket for our Beer Tasting this evening. It takes me all day to smoke my brisket. If I say so myself it is really good. I know I have several friends that think so too. Or maybe they are just being nice. Oh well I like it.
Friend: Oh you’re doing that new fad diet where you eat tons of fats and lots of meat.
Me: It isn’t a diet. It is life change of eating healthier. I already have more energy. My doctor said it works for people trying to get their A1C down.
When your friends and family wonder what kind of weird diet you are on now you need to know what to say to them.
Module 9 is titled Navigating the Social Mindfield.
This module talks about what to say when your friends talk about your diet or change of life. Let them know how you feel and the changes that have happened to you since you started your new way of life.
What would you say?
The talk about going out was very informative. It is surprising where that sneaky gluten can hide; soy sauce, soups, rubs, glazes, and even salads. Don’t be afraid to ask the server questions.
What would you ask?
When your friends want to go out to eat try to be the one to pick the place. That way you can pick one that you know. If that doesn’t go over then try to order last so you can have the server closer to you and your can ask questions. She should say she will ask the chef? She will remember your request better if you are last. If you end up having to eat something very plain, don’t let the meal ruin your time spent with family or friends. Just remember it is only one meal. If you slip a little don’t sweat it. You can just get back on the horse again.
The module closed by saying:
“This is as “real world” as it gets. What you should take from this is that success is not about perfection or making things so difficult that you and everyone around you is miserable due to your changes. This is about flexibility, accountability, and honestly assessing what battles are worth fighting, negotiating, or modifying.”
Like they say if you fall off the wagon just get back up and start again. It is not a big deal if you do. We are only human and we all make mistakes. Don’t come down on yourself just get on with it.
I forgot to post that I did loose another 1 1/2 pounds last week.
What would you tell a friend if they asked why you were eating like that?
What would you ask in the restaurant?
Let me hear your replies!
In Master Class Module 7 Robb talks about getting into the right mindset. I did agree with what he had to say about that. I do believe that if we change our thinking we change our life.
You have to decide what kind of person you are. Are you the competitive person or are you the person who cares about others but not them? I know that I am the person who has trouble taking care of myself but am always there when I am needed. He talks about you can’t help others if you don’t take care of yourself.
His five mindset strategies are:
#1: Know your process is unique to you.
Sometimes the thought of going from point A to point B is daunting. Overwhelming even. Maybe you don’t feel like you’re ready or that you have enough information.
Perhaps there are perceived obstacles in your path: non-supportive family members, friends, or coworkers.
Or maybe you feel defeated even before you start—which is understandable if previous lifestyle changes didn’t yield the results you were after.
Or maybe you’ve already started, but you feel like you should be further along. You see others who are seemingly light years ahead of where you are today….how can you possibly catch up?
Remember, you’re not them. Your process and your path is unique to you.
#2: Understand the power of small, consistent action
Everyday we have choices…lots of them.
We talked about epigenetics in Module 1 and learned that how your genes are expressed— everything from your health circumstance, the level of body fat you carry, your ability to concentrate and focus—are the result of the inputs your cells are receiving from your environment.
In other words, when you take an action (or don’t) or make a choice, you literally tell your cells what you want them to do.
And, therefore, what you want to look like and who you want to be.
So, even if you just made a less than ideal choice, don’t throw in the towel! Consciously make your next decision one that supports your goals.
Burn this into your mind: You are always one choice away from a different life.
You’re on the right track and you’re going to do great!
#3: Understand human nature—fight OR flight
People are resistant to change. All change. In fact, any sort of change, good or bad, is perceived by the brain as a threat.
Being aware of this now helps you squash any of those pesky thoughts about failure that creep into your head. Don’t. Let. Them. Win.
#4: Relax into your success!
Starting a new program, especially if you’ve tried many in the past, can be daunting.
A hard truth: Results are not always quick.
Play the long game—don’t get discouraged if you don’t see quick results. Real change takes time so be patient. Your body and mind will thank you.
Stay the course, celebrate the small wins, and relax into your success. You didn’t arrive at your current situation overnight, did you? You can’t expect to reverse it overnight either. Only with patience and consistency will you get to where you want to be.
#5: Make good micro decisions, even when things don’t go as planned
So much of success with anything in life—whether a skill, career, or diet and lifestyle— is how you frame your circumstances.
We all know the adage ‘when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.’ But it’s far more than that.
It’s not just being able to do something positive in an otherwise challenging situation. It’s the thoughts you have daily. The thoughts you may not even realize you have—often they’re so subtle you may not even realize how they’re affecting you.
Let’s say you had every intention of working out this morning. Your alarm starts blaring but you’re exhausted. So you roll over and hit snooze. Finally you got up, showered, grabbed a quick bite, and raced out the door.
You didn’t make it to the gym.
Do you write the day (or the whole week) off as a failure and throw in the towel all together? Have some doughnuts at the office?
Do you figure out a way to get some movement in at work? Take a walk around the building on your break. Try working in a standing position instead of sitting the full day. Take the stairs where possible. Park further away from the entrance and get in some extra steps. Do three sets of three push ups in the living room when you get home.
Feeling good about myself is something that I have been working on before I started this way of life. I always think I am not good enough or that I’m not smart. I don’t understand why people want to be my friends or why anyone would want to love me. David is always trying to help me think better of myself. You wouldn’t believe how many times I tried to run him off before we got married. He is the best thing that ever happened to me.
I take care of other people because it is what I do. I am need to take care of people. I take care of my family, friends, and even the homeless on the street who I feed sandwiches too. The only one I have trouble taking care of me. I am going to change that now. I am going to make this change in my life, so I will be here to enjoy my two little twin granddaughters grow up. I want to be able to play with the older grandkids. This means I need to get healthy.
I know that I may fall off the horse but I will get back on and go forward.
I affirm that I am changing my thinking, changing my life and so it is!
I met Fred and M many years ago. Fred was in the military with my late husband, Baggy, also known as Stuart Bagot. I got along with them great and we all became great friends. I spent time with them after Baggy’s death and it helped me a lot. I wanted them to meet my new husband, so I asked if we could come visit while we were in the United Kingdom. They said of course, so the trip was planned.
Fred who’s real name is Andrew Graeme was a very close friend of Baggy’s. Baggy had trained him up in II Para. All of the unit seemed to earn nicknames. Baggy got his because he was so skinny that his uniform hung on him like a bag of shit. Fred got his because he could swim really good and hold his breath for 2 minutes. His sergeant started calling him Freddy the Fish, so he became Fred. They had not seen each other for many years because Freddy had gone AWOL. Baggy said his Lieutenant would keep calling him into headquarters and telling him that he had got a post card from his friend. Then after Fred moved around for a lot of years he settled in Germany where he met M. Many years later they moved to Scotland and started the recording studio. He got hold of Baggy in Blackpool and their friendship was rekindled.
Fred has done many things in his life but he mainly worked in the music industry. He has been an editor, truck driver, written many articles, taught I believe for a while too. He is a fantastic cook. I love going to visit just to eat his cooking. He also likes spending time on the internet, as you can see in the above photo, but he does enjoy playing with his outside toys; tractor, digger, chainsaw and such things. He is always good for a laugh.
Mechthild Graeme better know as M is probably the closest friend I have. She was born and raised in Germany. We have just always got along great. She is also one of the smartest woman I know. She like Fred has done many things in her life. She was a DJ for years. She worked for some American company for a very long time too. Of course, she is the business side of the recording studio. She knows three languages, German, English and Gaelic. She decided if she was going to live in Scotland she should learn Gaelic. She is now teaching English as a second language to people online. M just can’t stay still. The other day when we took a relaxing day she did too, but for her that meant working in the yard. She is an amazing woman who I am very proud to call my friend.
Besides Fred taking us all over the highlands to show us the sights and making us wonderful meals we put a big dent in the 32 gallons of beer that Fred had made. We also played Malefitz which is a German board game. We had to teach David how to play because he had never even heard of it. That is what we usually did after dinner. On the norm the women usually won but one night Fred won. I have never seen him get so excited. We will never hear the end of it. Poor David though never did win. We have so many laughs playing this game. We also had to have David watch Funny Bones which is a movie that takes place in Blackpool.
Thanks guys for all the fun!
I wanted David to see the little village I lived in and meet my very close friends Anna and William Stead, so off we went to Bebington.
After they picked us up at Bebington train station we headed to their house for a nice drink.
The boys went to William’s allotment and got some fresh strawberries. After the drinks we moved to some beer.
We had a wonderful meal and then off to bed.
The next day we were going to show David the Wirral. I wanted to show him Port Sunlight. In 1887, Lever Brothers began looking for a new site on which to expand its soap-making business, which was at that time based in Warrington. The company bought 56 acres (23 ha) of flat unused marshy land in Cheshire, south of the River Mersey. It was large enough to allow space for expansion, and had a prime location between the river and a railway line. The site became Port Sunlight, where William Lever built his works and a model village to house his employees. William Lever personally supervised planning the village, and employed nearly thirty different architects. Between 1899 and 1914, 800 houses were built to house a population of 3,500. The garden village had allotments and public buildings including the Lady Lever Art Gallery, a cottage hospital, schools, a concert hall, open air swimming pool, church, and a temperance hotel. Lever introduced welfare schemes, and provided for the education and entertainment of his workforce, encouraging recreation and organizations which promoted art, literature, science or music. It was raining, this was not a surprise because we were in England, while we were there. We stopped for a little bit but then moved on and planned to come back which we didn’t do.
Not sure why the posts there had crocheted covers. I guess it was to protect you in case you fall after a pint.
Then was the whirlwind trip around the Wirral.
Wirral (/ˈwɪrəl/), also known as The Wirral, is a peninsula in northwest England. It is bounded to the west by the River Dee, forming a boundary with Wales, to the east by the River Mersey, and to the north by the Irish Sea.
The roughly rectangular peninsula is about 15 miles (24 km) long and 7 miles (11 km) wide. Historically, Wirral was wholly within Cheshire; in the Domesday Book, its border with the rest of the county was placed at “two arrow falls from Chester city walls.” However, since the passing of the Local Government Act 1972, only the southern third has been in Cheshire, with the rest in the Metropolitan Borough of Wirral in the modern county of Merseyside.
We ate lunch at Remember When. It was a very nice tea room and food was good.
We headed back to Anna and William’s house. We walked to the allotment where we pulled weeds and picked currents.
When we returned Anna made us a wonderful meal. David got to eat pheasant for the first time. We then had an ice cream that Anna topped with the strawberries and currents that we had picked. We had a nice couple of bottles of wine and had some good laughs. Anna told us how when she was at the university they had to stand with different sandwich boards to make money. She actually still had one.
The next day we had to leave our dear friends to head back to London. I am so glad that they had a few days to spend with us because they have been running around like a chicken with its head chopped off and its wings flapping. They have been going to Wales, Ansty and Bebington trying to take care of 3 houses. Luckily, they just got the one in Wales sold. Now all the work will begin on their one in Antsy which is an old thatched roof house. Thanks again Anna and William for showing us a good time.